Self-Creation in Celibacy
Melissa Febos’s “The Dry Season”
The award-winning writer’s new memoir demonstrates how self-creation is always a collective endeavor.
Taking Out the Trash
Sullivan’s Hot Take is a Hot Mess.
My break down of Andrew Sullivan’s absolutely bonkers two-page spread in the NYT.
Ultimatum is Not Queer
Because Marriage is Not Queer
My analysis of “The Ultimatum: Queer Love” reveals the many logical leaps of marriage.
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July 4, 2025
This week, I decided to write something I’ve not attempted in quite a long time: a takedown. Usually, I avoid such pieces — mainly, for self protection from bigots. But writing this piece was necessary. I’m pretty exasperated by Token Gays who are given platforms of authority to espouse anti-trans sentiments, and to attack social justice efforts more broadly.
Andrew Sullivan’s absolutely bonkers two-page spread in Sunday’s NYT is case in point, and so it is imperative that we who believe in freedom — in dignity and self-determination, in care and joy — take the time to engage with such trash in order to deconstruct, interrogate, and disprove its points.
So, I did precisely that. Since I am no longer beholden to confine myself to the corporate box of Stanford, I have the freedom to stand for my community and speak out against such hate.
I also wrote about “The Ultimatum: Queer Love” for MSNBC. This show was so deliciously messy. I will never encounter Brussel sprouts the same way again. But the show also made me sad — sad about how marriage-focused these young lezbos and queers are; how they are espousing the very same normative logic about life and life as their hetero counterparts.
I am still booking talks and events with campuses and organizations throughout the fall. Please contact me on LinkedIn, because I’m not tech savvy enough to figure out the contact form on this website.
~ Marcie
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